So I promised I would post updates on my pregnancy.
But that's the thing, I don't really follow and track this pregnancy as much as I did with baby 1 and 2, which got me to thinking about the things we are doing and will be doing differently this time around.
This baby will be my biggest gap with 4.5 years between my son and him/her. My others are 23 months and 2.5 years apart so that is one thing that is pretty different. I have had 3 kids to buy for, clothe, diaper and nurse and when started compiling my list of needs (because December will be here very very soon) I realized there are things we just are not doing the same.
1. I am not setting up the cradle.
We have the cradle that my husband and his brother slept in when they were babies. My husband brought it home when we decided to start trying for a baby and I could not wait to put it into use. We put it beside the bed and it looked so nursery like. I put her in it for two days and got no sleep. As much as I thought I was against co-sleeping and wanted her next to me but not in my bed, I could not sleep and she would not sleep. So on Day 4 when my milk came pouring in and I stayed up nursing her for 4 hours, I laid down with her beside me and never looked back.
Baby 2, we set up the cradle again. And again she was back in our bed.
Baby 3 I set up the cradle AND made him a bumper because I was excited for a change from pink to blue. It looked so photogenic and made me feel like I was baby-prepping.
See how pretty it looked? I was proud of myself for making such a nice bumper to keep the socks and laundry from falling through the bars.
I KNOW we will end up co-sleeping so this time, the cradle isn't coming down out of the attic and instead, we will be upgrading to a King Sized bed.
2. Won't be buying an infant car-seat.
In the USA, babies are rear facing only until they are 12 months/22 lbs. I turned all 3 of mine around by 13-15 months. But this time, my baby will stay rear facing for at least 2 years. Many studies have shown that babies are not strong enough to survive a car wreck front facing. http://www.parenting.com/article/car-seats-safety. I read many stories of toddlers that would have survived wrecks if they were still rear facing and realized that I had not done proper research ahead of time. I thank the Lord that we never wrecked because my kids are all small for their age and would not have been strong enough. (My 6.5 year old is still in a 5pt harness). Instead of getting an infant seat and then swapping at a year, I will be only getting a convertible that is rated from 5lbs up so they can stay in that seat for awhile. I will be picking from one of the carseats researched on this site.
I know what you're thinking- HOW will I carry my kid around? I will be using slings just like I did with the others. Nothing says "please don't touch my baby" like having them wrapped close to your body when walking around HEB for groceries.
3. We won't be buying many baby gizmos.
My kids hated swings and all the other rocker glider things that we got with baby 1. I tried, I really did but they just cried when we put them in those things. The only thing they liked was a bouncer and the floor activity mat with mirror. As I have grown in my homeschooling journey the past 4 years, I have realized that kids need less "stimulation" and more imagination. While I am not quite Montessori, I am learning how it all works.
We will be getting a neutral colored bouncer and a red/black/white activity mat...that is it for the first few months and once they grow out of that, we will get an exersaucer and use the borrowed walker we used with the others. The exersaucer has always been a winner- this was Christmas day when she got hers.
4. Our kids will be close to the birth.
The kids have already taken the Sibling Prep Class and I may have them take another with one of the other instructors in the area so they take it serious. I want them to be ready if the birth goes fast so we will be getting a hotel for my In-Laws to take the kids to and as soon as the baby is born, we are asking for them to bring the kids right away so they get to bond in those first few minutes and see their baby weighed. We may let them stay for the whole labor, but we are not sure yet. With the others, they were gone for the whole day and brought back later the next day. They voiced how much they want to be there this time and see what happens when a baby is born at home.
5. We will be taking a Reboot Refresher Course
I will have 4 years since the last time I gave birth and I have learned so much that I was not taught before. My husband does not know how to use a Rebozo and we forgot most of the labor positions we learned in class 9 years ago. I will not be trying to do this on my own knowledge as an instructor, but my husband and I will be taking a class when I am 36 weeks with a local Birth Boot Camp Instructor and really preparing for an amazing birth.
6. I am going to Breastfeed publicly!
With baby 1, I was the mom hiding in the bathroom or in her car nursing when I was away from home. I was fine with it, but it did separate me from anyone else and I still nursed for 18 months. With Baby 2, I was still hiding and even gave her soy milk at 9 months so I did not have to pump because I could not pump enough. I still nursed her for 16 months. With my son, I started feeding him regardless of where I was, but under a cover...I felt free and nursed him for 23 months.
This time, I am investing in some good nursing shirts and maybe a nursing scarf because it will be winter and I am going to feed that baby no matter where I am and I am going to be proud of being a mother. If people have a problem with my choice of food, they can look away...kinda like vegans don't go to BBQ joints.
7. We are going to do a Gender Reveal!
I know, it is sorta silly being our 4th, but my kids want to be surprised so I am going to do it for them. We will be taking a box of balloons to my Grandmas to find out with her and the kids together.
We will also be posting it live on Facebook for friends and family if you follow my page.
I am sure as we get closer to December, or once we know the gender, we will have other things that we decide to do different too because there are always things that pop up but for the most part, these are big things we will be changing up.
Sadly, this will be our first birth and baby without our beloved Harley, who died last December. I can't imagine having a baby without her. She was the best dog a family could have asked for and we miss her. I found this picture trying to get an exersaucer picture and laughed so hard and then got very sad as I realized I won't get to see the new baby learn to walk holding her fur. Cherish your moments.
There are many things we will be doing the same, cloth diapering, breastfeeding only, home birth etc but these are some things that really stood out to us about what is different this time even though we have not put as much effort into tracking this pregnancy as with the others.
Are you doing anything different this pregnancy or with the next one?